I was asked a few weeks back in a forum “How can I be more dominant in the bedroom?” I thought I’d post the question and response here for my blog fans.
You’d be amazed at how many men feel the need to be dominated and taken in hand!
This is a VERY well written book if you want some background reading: Female Domination by Elise Sutton
It’s a lot about attitude. In the bedroom you must brook no nonsense and treat him like a little house puppy that’s not house broken.
One BIG tip I can offer is that if you find yourself getting flustered or a bit lost in the play, sit on the edge of the bed or a chair or whatever comes to hand and command him to drop to the floor and give you oral pleasure whilst you consider how you’re going to progress.
Tying is good but you also want him to be able to move around and above all, the whole aim here is to get him to do things to please you so that you can reward him as you see fit. Access to your body should be hard fought for and above all, when you allow him access to your body, make it clear to him that you are allowing him to touch you, pleasure you for YOUR pleasure, not his. He has become nothing more than your sexual plaything (tell him that, it’ll excite him)
The more you impress upon him, the idea that he is there as a slave to please you and give you sexual pleasure (when he behaves in such a way as that you will allow him to please you), the more excited and eager to please he will become.
May all seem a bit extreme if you’re new to the domination scene but it’s a lot of fun but just go with it and have some fun.
You can always just start off with a little light spanking. Put him over your knee butt naked and don’t go hell for leather straight off, just a few light alternating spanks on each cheek to get going. He’ll probably get hard so you can feel his penis between your legs as you spank him.
From a psyche point of view, it’s also a good idea to make sure that you’re at least wearing some clothes so that he’s at a disadvantage. It also gives you some more rewards to dole out, the gradual removal of clothes.
For example, you might reward him by taking off your bra if he manages to give you an adequate foot rub.
As for what to wear, rather than going out and buying a bunch of leather (decent quality leather costs), just try it out in a black pair of jeans and a black bra. If you have a see through top so that he can see your bra underneath, it’ll excite him more as men are generally visually aroused and it’s all about the tease and denial. If you’ve got some thigh boots, ditch the jeans and go for a mini skirt, preferablly a strong red colour or black.
If you’ve got long hair, pull it all back so that your face isn’t hidden. A contrasting lipstick will also highlight your lips.
I could go on and on and on but that should enough to get you started 
